Comments on: Cinderella in the Making http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/ Blogging my adventures since 2002 Sun, 18 Oct 2009 06:41:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Emee http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/comment-page-1/#comment-227 Emee Fri, 16 Feb 2007 14:34:42 +0000 http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/#comment-227 If helping your children behave and helping them make good lifestyle/eating choices is mean, I hope I'm the meanest mom around. Peanut behaves pretty well in public unless she's super tired. Then all bets are off. Still, I think being 'mean' and letting her know what behaviors are not acceptable has given her structure and let her know that her daddy and I care enough about her to take interest in what she does. We only had baths once or twice a week too when I was growing up. There were 5 of us kids so it was something of a rotating schedule. And what's wrong with using a towel more than once? Good grief. Why make more work for yourself? Just remember this trip isn't a regular occurrence, the circumstances are extraordinary and the next time you see your mom you'll be on your turf. Good luck with your trip home! If helping your children behave and helping them make good lifestyle/eating choices is mean, I hope I’m the meanest mom around. Peanut behaves pretty well in public unless she’s super tired. Then all bets are off. Still, I think being ‘mean’ and letting her know what behaviors are not acceptable has given her structure and let her know that her daddy and I care enough about her to take interest in what she does.

We only had baths once or twice a week too when I was growing up. There were 5 of us kids so it was something of a rotating schedule. And what’s wrong with using a towel more than once? Good grief. Why make more work for yourself? Just remember this trip isn’t a regular occurrence, the circumstances are extraordinary and the next time you see your mom you’ll be on your turf. Good luck with your trip home!

]]> By: BadAunt http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/comment-page-1/#comment-226 BadAunt Fri, 16 Feb 2007 12:51:24 +0000 http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/#comment-226 I wish more parents were 'mean' with their kids. Maybe they'd learn something! I was talking to The Man about this the other day, and told him how the kids in my family were trained to behave at the dinner table. I remember my little brother in his high chair, when he was really just a baby. He was out in the kitchen, being fed by someone. (Older sister, or perhaps Mum.) When he was good, he was brought through to the dining table to be with the rest of the family and guests, but the moment he was too noisy or started throwing food around, it was back out to the kitchen. It wasn't punishment, really. He always had someone with him, and nobody told him off, exactly, just told him he was too noisy or that his behaviour wasn't good for the dining room. But I remember he didn't spend much time in the kitchen anyway - the dining room was more interesting and so there was a reason to behave. I guess I was trained in the same way. But for this method it helps to have a big family - there were seven of us, so I don't know how it worked with the first one or two. But we were amazingly well behaved at mealtimes. I met someone a couple of years ago who knew our family when I was a kid, and apparently we were famous for it. What cruel parents we must have had! (I'll admit that when we didn't have guests we were allowed to be a little more lax...) I wish more parents were ‘mean’ with their kids. Maybe they’d learn something!

I was talking to The Man about this the other day, and told him how the kids in my family were trained to behave at the dinner table. I remember my little brother in his high chair, when he was really just a baby. He was out in the kitchen, being fed by someone. (Older sister, or perhaps Mum.) When he was good, he was brought through to the dining table to be with the rest of the family and guests, but the moment he was too noisy or started throwing food around, it was back out to the kitchen.

It wasn’t punishment, really. He always had someone with him, and nobody told him off, exactly, just told him he was too noisy or that his behaviour wasn’t good for the dining room. But I remember he didn’t spend much time in the kitchen anyway – the dining room was more interesting and so there was a reason to behave.

I guess I was trained in the same way. But for this method it helps to have a big family – there were seven of us, so I don’t know how it worked with the first one or two.

But we were amazingly well behaved at mealtimes. I met someone a couple of years ago who knew our family when I was a kid, and apparently we were famous for it. What cruel parents we must have had!

(I’ll admit that when we didn’t have guests we were allowed to be a little more lax…)

]]> By: mo http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/comment-page-1/#comment-225 mo Thu, 15 Feb 2007 17:43:08 +0000 http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/#comment-225 You're so not mean. I've been labelled as a meanie with my kids. But they're well-behaved and polite and are a pleasure to take out and about (usually). And they wonder why I don't visit them more often... Two baths a day!?! Are you kidding me?!? How the heck do they get so 'dirty' during the night? I grew up where we had baths once a week - sponged off in between as necessary. It makes a difference when you have to haul and heat the water every time. Here's hoping you get home soon. You’re so not mean. I’ve been labelled as a meanie with my kids. But they’re well-behaved and polite and are a pleasure to take out and about (usually). And they wonder why I don’t visit them more often…
Two baths a day!?! Are you kidding me?!? How the heck do they get so ‘dirty’ during the night? I grew up where we had baths once a week – sponged off in between as necessary. It makes a difference when you have to haul and heat the water every time.
Here’s hoping you get home soon.

]]> By: Delia http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/comment-page-1/#comment-224 Delia Thu, 15 Feb 2007 15:27:38 +0000 http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/#comment-224 I'm so sorry you're stuck there! And I think maybe they should be thankful to have ya'll there to help out. And you're not mean. You're making good choices for your child which will teach him how to make good choices for himself later on in life. I’m so sorry you’re stuck there! And I think maybe they should be thankful to have ya’ll there to help out. And you’re not mean. You’re making good choices for your child which will teach him how to make good choices for himself later on in life.

]]> By: jeanette1ca http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/comment-page-1/#comment-223 jeanette1ca Thu, 15 Feb 2007 15:14:22 +0000 http://www.queenoframbles.com/blog/2007/02/14/cinderella-in-the-making/#comment-223 925 space 337 space 3181 or 510 space 625 space 6980. I know, you'll hold out as long as you can, but if it really gets too insane, come on down. We won't make you sleep with the 11 cats - we will find friends, or put you up in the doubletree inn at the end of the street. And we do airport pickup - in fact I think the car knows its way to both Oakland and SFO, just like a horse. (Always easier, I think, to cope when you don't feel completely trapped in a situation.) 925 space 337 space 3181 or 510 space 625 space 6980. I know, you’ll hold out as long as you can, but if it really gets too insane, come on down. We won’t make you sleep with the 11 cats – we will find friends, or put you up in the doubletree inn at the end of the street. And we do airport pickup – in fact I think the car knows its way to both Oakland and SFO, just like a horse. (Always easier, I think, to cope when you don’t feel completely trapped in a situation.)

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