Comments on: Explosion

By: mo

mo — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 16:55:12 +0000

Sorry I’m late in on this.
Hon, I completely understand where you’re coming from. I need a job but I have no skills and daycare is $$ and most of the good ones are full. I know I need to get out with adults more often and I was thinking if I could get the daycare thing worked out I may just be working for my own personal well-being but I’m sure it would help (therapy and meds have not helped).
Hope you figure it out soon. Once you do maybe you can help me!

By: jeanette1ca

jeanette1ca — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 18:10:34 +0000

When I stopped eating sugar and chocolate for a period while dieting, it became clear that my acne was primarily caused by hormone changes. If on top of the hormone changes, I was eating sugar and chocolate (and it was my favorite time for eating those things), then the breakout became so prolonged and ugly that one month barely cleared up before the next batch hit. And G_D forbid we should throw in a little stress along with it, just to make sure one pimple would come out directly on top of the nose! I think if we had an easy way to monitor some of the hormone levels like we can monitor blood sugar, we would see some interesting connections between those hormone levels and both our health and mental processes.

Until then, keep experimenting to find out what works for your body and mind! The worst part is that it can be a spiral, so finding things that break the spiral, even if they aren’t any type of permanent cure, can help you cope.

By: lainey

lainey — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 18:10:19 +0000

I hope you find a way to get a little bit of a break from your little one and also don’t be so hard on yourself! Maybe some kind of structured time away would be good for you. Regardless of what you decide to do I’m SURE you will always be the most important person in Erik’s life, no matter if someone else takes care of him sometimes. I always bristle a bit when I hear that argument about it not being worth it to work and have to pay for childcare…that may be true in strictly economic terms, but the way I see it when I pay for childcare (I’m planning for work part-time once my baby is born) I’m paying for regular adult interaction, and keeping my skills fresh and so on. I’m sure you’ll figure all this out…find a way to be a good mom and still maintain your sanity. Good luck!

By: PIgs

PIgs — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 12:41:05 +0000

Private tutoring in your home or a local library? Pays good. I’m going to start after the Piglet is a few months old.

By: Mommyprof

Mommyprof — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 11:18:55 +0000

I know what it is like to have those days, so you have my sympathies. If only small people could be rational. I know lots of paid child care is not a good option for you, but perhaps you could find another Mom and swap off some of the child care – you take one afternoon, she takes another.

You are a good writer, so it seems like you could give freelancing a try. You won’t make a lot of $ at first, but it would be good to be able to talk to grownups sometimes and you’ll get an ego boost if you publish in your own community. You would need some baby-free time for this, but again maybe that could be Mike days or swap with a friend days?

By: Tree of Knowledge

Tree of Knowledge — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 05:40:50 +0000

Yarr (it be pirate day), a bit o’ anger is good for the soul. Have a wee splash o’ grog an’ all will be right wit the world.

Seriously though, I see nothing wrong with wanting to stab someone 10,000 times with an ice pick. It’s the actually doing it that’s the problem. As long as you don’t cross that line, you’re normal.

Re: the job. How about editing? Or find an afterschool tutoring gig where you work one-on-one with kids who need it?

I have no children myself (I know, I know–only bad unsolicited advice can follow, and yet I can’t stop myslef. It must be the pirate rum), but I taught preschool for four years, so I do know that no kid is a joy all of the time, so I can’t help you there. But there this book by Susan Douglas and someone else called _Mommy Myth_ that looks at how the media has built an ideal of motherhood that leaves all women inadequate because real women need breaks from their kids, no matter how much they love them. No idea if you want to read it, but it’s an interesting media study.

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 01:48:08 +0000

I thought I was the only one feeling this way today.

I’m the opposite on the job front though. I’m all set to sub (even signed up in 3 new districts), but I cannot make myself go to the new districts. I can barely make myself go to the “old” district.

I’m just so upset I don’t know what to do – which drives HH crazy and therefore, me crazy too. When I am blah (which is the word I’ve come up with for this feeling) I just cannot handle him asking, “honey what’s wrong?” every 5 minutes. Good gravy – I DON’T KNOW.

What a long way to say I know how you feel. ;-) Hope tomorrow is better.